The Wise Spouse

The Wise Spouse


The wise spouse doesn’t take anything for granted.
The spouse is thankful to be loved and seeks ways to make him/her self more loving.

The wise spouse doesn’t permit him/herself to be a liability but strives to be an asset to the marriage.
The spouse looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. The spouse’s beloved knows that he/she is richer by the marriage.

The wise spouse seeks to be part of the beloved’s life. One’s interest becomes the other’s interest.
The wise spouse looks for ways to help the beloved in every endeavor. When the beloved needs a helping hand, the first one should be the hand of the wise spouse.

The wise spouse knows that he/she can give or withhold peace of mind for the beloved through conversation and observations concerning circumstances or people. The wise spouse limits conversation to the positive.

A wise spouse does not fill his/her mind with pornography or romance novels. Excitement and passion is reserved for the beloved.

The wise spouse sets a joyful mood in the home. Using laughter, music, and happy times the wise spouse stirs the beloved and the children to joy. The wise spouse knows that lightheartedness and grace reduces stress.

The wise spouse gauges the beloved’s needs, fulfilling desires before he/she is even aware of them.
The wise spouse meets every desire.

The wise spouse does not lie, but is gracious.

The wise spouse does not ever abuse the beloved, physically, emotionally, or sexually.

The wise spouse understands that the beloved needs to be honored and respected not based on the beloved’s performance, but instead on the beloved’s position. The wise spouse embraces with enthusiasm the beloved’s ideas and plans.

The wise spouse is not whiny, complaining, pitiful, or entitled. Instead, the wise spouse seeks to be confident, capable, graceful, and thankful.

The wise spouse does not fantasize about the "roads not taken." The wise spouse realizes that he/she is not God’s gift to the opposite sex. The wise spouse realizes that he/she is blessed by the marriage and learns to be content.

The wise spouse does not use mood-altering substances, become addicted, alcoholic or a user of illegal drugs. A wise spouse keeps his/her body fit.

The wise spouse never expects to be served, thus is never disappointed. The wise spouse is a giver, a helper; and is an example to the children of cheerful and energetic service to others.

The wise spouse doesn’t attempt to instruct the beloved through feigned questions. Questions should be sincere inquiries, not traps.

The wise spouse is eager to learn, is open to change, and ready to listen. A wise spouse does not cloud his/her mind with foolish folly of common entertainment. The wise spouse uses his/her time wisely for the beloved and the family.

The wise spouse realizes that the best gift he/she could give to the children is to love the beloved wholeheartedly.

Adapted By Dear Mrs Web www.dearmrsweb.com from

Debi Pearl’s

A Wise Woman Builds Her House

No Greater Joy